Incident #1--Mchumba, a 9 year old female with quite a bit of energy and a tendency toward mischeviousness, was lying in a nice, shady part of the enclosure and scratching herself with apparent relish. Typically, when I say a bonobo was "scratching" herself, I mean a different itch but this time it really was just scratching. Think about the great satisfaction you derive from a great back scratching or running your hands through your hair and scratching your scalp a bit. Relaxed and enjoying herself. A woman approached the window and said (about Mchumba): "Where is his woman? She should be doing that for him." Among the many things that make this statement laughable, not 20 feet behind Mchumba sat Junior (a young adult male) grooming Ikela (adult female) for near 20 minutes.
Incident #2--This incident took place, again, during the Junior-Ikela grooming session. At the moment this incident occurred, Junior was grooming Ikela's face and lips with both his hands and his lips. Humans tend to call all lip-lip contact kissing. A woman with a rather loud voice walked up to the window and asked me several rather insipid questions, with a rather off-putting aggressiveness, and then said (with a hint of incredulousness in her voice): "Oh please, tell me that's a male and a female!"
This is my favorite one. So unexamined are her opinions, so unexamined her beliefs about what is right and what is wrong, she did not even pause to consider to whom she might possibly be speaking. The assumption being, of course, that her opinion is uncritically acceptable. The slight startle after she took a moment to look at me and the abrupt end to her line of incessant questions (none of which she actually appeared interested in hearing the actual answer to) suggests to me that realized to whom she was speaking and that perhaps the unexamined homophobia embedded in her comment came to, briefly, stand in relief. She has the luxury of walking through her life never experiencing a challenge to her very self based on her gender or sexuality. Would that we were all able to experience such luxuries.
The great thing about observing bonobos is that they actually challenge all of these assumptions. Not only the assumptions people make about other animals but also the assumptions people make about us. I like bonobos. I do not like people.

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